We’ve all seen the shows. An “expert” comes in to a person’s home, filled wall to wall with veritable mountains of stuff.
Some people are holding on to papers in case they need that one precious piece of information later, unsure if they’ll remember it on their own. Some fill their homes with items they have compulsively bought to avoid painful feelings. Others build walls, even tunnels, to protect themselves from the all-too-real feelings of fear, vulnerability, or shame.
Now, the team of experts arrive, and, Presto! Within days, the house is spotless, renovated, and livable again.
What does this have to do with you, you ask? If you can identify with the concept of swinging to the next relationship branch while you still have a hold on the previous one, it has everything to do with you, and your relationships.
The thing is, clinging to the hoarded material in a house (and then cleaning it, perhaps only to prepare fresh space for more hoarding!) and jumping into a new relationship soon after the old one.